Why do people have kinks? Where the evidence runs out
Why do people have kinks? Nobody has established a single cause. The best-supported account is erotic learning: arousal pairs early with something incidental, and the thing keeps the charge afterwards. Laboratories have produced that pairing in three men and in rats. What no account explains is why most people meet the same pairing and develop nothing.
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The oldest answer is the one still standing. Alfred Binet, writing in 1887, argued that these interests form out of chance associations made early in life, and most of what has been published since is a version of that claim, tested, narrowed or attacked. The field is not short of alternatives. Schippers, Hoogsteder and de Vogel's 2024 systematic review in Sexual Abuse collected 47 theories of how deviant sexual interests develop and found seven that met basic quality criteria for a theory.
The catalog is a place to hold those theories against something. Each of its 486 entries records what its own literature says about origin. Twenty-two invoke John Money's lovemaps. Ten name classical conditioning in those words. Several attach to a fibre or a plastic nobody had made before the twentieth century, which is a constraint on any theory that treats the object as arbitrary.
The association hypothesis
Every modern account of where a fetish comes from descends from a claim made in Paris in the 1880s.
In 1882 the neurologists Jean-Martin Charcot and Valentin Magnan described patients with fixed attachments to shoe nails, nightcaps and white aprons, and filed the pattern under degeneration theory without giving it a name. Five years later Alfred Binet named it. His essay Le fétichisme dans l'amour argued that a fetish begins in an accident of timing: an object that happened to be present at an early moment of arousal, and then held it. Binet's chance-association claim is the hypothesis every later theory either elaborates or refutes.
Krafft-Ebing had already catalogued the cases in Psychopathia Sexualis the year before, reading them as a pathology of association. Freud, in the Three Essays on the Theory of Sexuality of 1905, put the fetish on a continuum with ordinary erotic life rather than apart from it. The catalog inherits that vocabulary whole: fetishism is a DSM-5-TR disorder because Binet's word survived the journey from anthropology through neurology into the manuals, and partialism, the focus on a non-genital body part, is a nineteenth-century observation the DSM has split off and folded back twice.
What the laboratory produced
The conditioning account has been tested directly, and both times it worked.
In 1966 the behaviourist Stanley Rachman projected a slide of a pair of women's boots immediately before slides of nude women, and measured penile response. Three men reached his criterion of five successive responses to the boots alone, after 30, 65 and 24 trials. The response then extinguished when the pairing stopped, and recovered spontaneously afterwards, which is what a conditioned response does. Rachman's experiment and the replication he ran with Hodgson two years later remain the only human demonstrations of their kind. A laboratory built something with the shape of a fetish, in three men, and then took it away again.
The animal version is cleaner, because rats have no culture to borrow from. Pfaus, Erickson and Talianakis gave sexually naive male rats their first matings while the animals wore a small jacket, and reported the result in Physiology & Behavior in 2013. Males that had learned to mate in the jacket went on copulating normally in it. Males that had learned without it, then fitted with one, approached less, ejaculated less often and took longer about it. A garment had taken control of the behaviour. That is Binet's mechanism, running in an animal that has never seen a boot.
Rachman's own subjects are the reason the finding is quoted with care. The sample was three men, the boots were fashionable in 1966, and later readers have asked how much of the response was conditioning and how much was the decade.
Where the conditioning account thins
Conditioning explains how an interest could form. It does not explain who ends up with one.
Kevin Hsu and Michael Bailey put the objection in the Archives of Sexual Behavior in 2020, under the title The Poverty of Conditioning Explanations for Sexual Interests. Their points are the obvious ones, which is what makes them hard to answer. Nearly everyone encounters arousal alongside incidental objects, and nearly nobody comes away with a fetish. Fetishes are overwhelmingly male, and conditioning has nothing to say about that. The response Rachman produced faded within a few sessions, while the interests people report last decades.
James Pfaus, whose rats supply the other half of the evidence, replied in the same journal that year. His title carries the argument: conditioning in humans is difficult to see, close to impossible to test, and probably how it happens anyway. A person's sexual learning is thousands of unrecorded pairings, in private, across years, and no ethics committee will approve the experiment that would settle it. The argument ends in a design problem rather than in a finding.
The theories that survive a quality check
Of the 47 theories Schippers and colleagues collected in 2024, seven passed their quality assessment, and the survivors converge on four processes: excitation transfer between emotion and arousal, conditioning, difficulty with what the review calls normative sexuality, and social learning. No neurobiological theory of sexual deviance met the bar at all, because none of acceptable quality could be retrieved.
The cortical story about feet shows what that absence looks like. In Phantoms in the Brain (1998), V. S. Ramachandran noted that the foot and the genitals lie next to each other on the cortical body map and suggested that cross-activation between the two might predispose people to eroticise feet. The hypothesis is memorable and it is attached to the largest case in the catalog: foot fetish is the partialism people report most, estimated at 14 percent of adults and ranked fifth of 486 entries. When Turnbull and colleagues mapped erogenous intensity across the body in around 800 people for Cortex, feet came out low and adjacent sites did not cluster. The story is still repeated, and it has never been supported.
Arousal borrowed from somewhere else
One of the four surviving processes has nothing to do with objects at all, and it covers a family of interests the association account handles badly.
Schachter and Singer argued in 1962 that physiological arousal is ambiguous and gets labelled by context. Dutton and Aron demonstrated the consequence in 1974: men who had crossed a high swaying bridge were more likely to read their own racing hearts as attraction to the woman waiting on the far side than men who had crossed a solid one. Dolf Zillmann's excitation-transfer model describes the same borrowing across the minutes after a fright.
In the catalog it accounts for the interests whose object supplies a bodily state rather than a memory. Fear play is the explicit case, and its entry is built on that literature. Consensual non-consent, estimated at 30 percent of adults and ranked 40th, works on the same machinery with the fear scripted in advance. Brontophilia, arousal from thunderstorms, sits at 0.1 percent and 429th, and its entry is candid that nobody has tested the mechanism on it directly. The transfer account predicts a bodily state doing the work, which is why it fits the rarest entries as well as the common ones.
The story about damage
The account most people arrive with is that a kink comes from something that went wrong. It is the one claim in this area with population data standing against it.
Richters and colleagues put BDSM questions to 19,307 Australians in a national telephone survey published in 2008. Respondents who had taken part in the previous year were no more likely than anyone else to have been sexually coerced and no more likely to be unhappy or anxious, and the men among them scored lower on psychological distress. Wismeijer and van Assen compared 902 practitioners with 434 controls in 2013 and found the practitioners less neurotic, more extraverted, more open to experience and more secure in attachment. Neither survey found the damaged population the trauma account requires.
Money's Lovemaps (1986) supplied the version of the story the vocabulary still carries: the vandalised lovemap, an arousal template deformed by early shame or punishment. He named a great deal of what there was to name, which is why the catalog credits him with coining sixteen of its entry names, from autonepiophilia to somnophilia, and invokes lovemaps in twenty-two. The theory fits any case once you have the case, and forecasts none of them in advance.
What the objects are dated to
Whatever forms a kink, the object it settles on has to exist first.
The catalog files 30 entries under objects and materials and 32 under clothing and garments, and several of those attach to a substance with a birth certificate. Nobody could have eroticised nylon before DuPont announced it in 1938, or spandex before Joseph Shivers made it in 1958, or PVC clothing before André Courrèges put it on a Paris runway in 1964.
| Entry | The material arrives | Rank of 486 |
|---|---|---|
| Gas mask | Small Box Respirator issued, 1916 | 272 |
| Nylon | DuPont announcement, 1938 | 207 |
| Spandex | Shivers at DuPont, 1958 | 282 |
| PVC | Courrèges collection, 1964 | 227 |
Age tracks rank, and the gap is wide. Leather and latex, the two oldest materials in the group, rank 39th and 49th; every synthetic that came after them sits outside the top two hundred. Pictophilia, arousal running primarily through images, is estimated at 15 percent and ranked 50th, and the earliest surviving erotic photographs date to around 1846. Robot fetish took its community name from a Usenet newsgroup founded in the 1990s.
None of that settles the mechanism. It does constrain the answer: a theory that makes the object arbitrary has to explain why the arbitrary objects arrive in the order the factories made them.
Common questions
Does a kink come from childhood trauma?
No, on the evidence available. Richters and colleagues' 2008 survey of 19,307 Australians found BDSM participants no more likely to have been sexually coerced and no more distressed than the rest of the sample. Wismeijer and van Assen's 2013 comparison of 902 practitioners with 434 controls found them lower in neuroticism and more secure in attachment. Individual histories vary; the population pattern the trauma account predicts is absent.
At what age do kinks start?
Around puberty for most people, earlier for some. The clinical literature summarised in StatPearls places the onset of paraphilic interests in adolescence, and the pattern most people describe is recognising an interest rather than acquiring one. Retrospective reports are the only evidence here, since nobody has followed a birth cohort through the relevant years.
Can a kink be removed?
No method has been shown to remove an established interest, and current practice does not aim to. The DSM-5-TR diagnoses a paraphilic disorder only where there is distress, impairment or a non-consenting person, so treatment targets those and leaves the interest alone. Rachman's conditioned response extinguished in the laboratory, which is not the same thing as a lifelong preference being reversible.
Why are fetishes more common in men?
Nobody knows, and the imbalance is one of the strongest objections to the conditioning account. Chalkley and Powell's 1983 review of forty-eight fetishism cases from a London teaching hospital found 47 of the 48 were men, with clothing the focus in 58.3 percent and rubber in 22.9. Exposure to incidental objects during arousal does not differ between the sexes by anything like that margin.
Does pornography create new kinks?
No study has established that it does. What the catalog shows is narrower and better documented: the objects available to a generation shape which interests get names, from pictophilia after photography to robot fetish after the Usenet groups of the 1990s. Availability decides the menu, and nobody has shown that it decides the appetite.
Are kinks the same thing as fetishes?
No. A fetish is a focus on a specific object, material or body part, and kink is the broader word for any interest outside the conventional script, including bondage and dominance and submission, which involve no object at all. The distinction and its history are set out in the post on kink and fetish.
Entries in this article
The catalog pages behind this article, each with its own definition, history and popularity reading.
- Foot Fetish83/100Podophilia · Body Parts & PartialismA focused erotic interest in feet (their shape, soles, toes, arches, or grooming) as a primary source of attraction. Within partialism (erotic focus on a non-genital body part) it is the example people report most, by a wide margin.83
- Leather Fetish65/100Leather fetishism · Objects & MaterialsAn erotic attraction to leather as a material: its look, smell, creak, shine, and feel when worn. It overlaps strongly with BDSM gear and is bound up with a recognised, organised leather subculture with its own bars, codes, and titles.65
- Consensual Non-Consent64/100Power, Roles & ScenariosA negotiated power-exchange scenario in which adults agree in advance to enact a scene of simulated non-consent. The fiction of resistance or being overpowered is staged while real, ongoing consent underlies the whole encounter. Categorically distinct from actual assault.64
- Fetishism64/100Fetishistic Disorder · Clinical ParaphiliasA DSM-5-TR paraphilic disorder defined by recurrent, intense arousal from nonliving objects or a strong focus on non-genital body parts. The body-part form is partialism, and the arousal must cause clinically significant distress or impairment. An object or body-part preference without distress is not a disorder.64
- Latex Fetish62/100Latex fetishism · Objects & MaterialsAn erotic interest in latex garments and their tight, glossy, second-skin qualities. A common material fetish involving the look, feel, sound, smell, and enveloping sensation of clinging latex on consenting adults.62
- Pictophilia (Erotic Images)61/100Pictophilia · Acts & ActivitiesSexual arousal that depends notably on viewing erotic or pornographic images, photographs, or video. For most people it is ordinary visual arousal; clinically the term denotes a stronger, more central reliance on imagery.61
- Partialism46/100Partialism · Clinical ParaphiliasThe clinical term for an exclusive or near-exclusive sexual focus on a specific, usually non-genital body part: feet, hands, hair, legs, the navel. It is the umbrella concept under which interests such as foot or hand attraction are formally classified.46
- Nylon Fetish43/100Nylon Fetishism · Objects & MaterialsAn erotic attraction to nylon as a material: the sheer, smooth, faintly glossy synthetic fabric used in hosiery, stockings, tights, and other slick garments. It is a textile-material preference rather than a clinically defined paraphilia.43
- PVC Fetish42/100Objects & MaterialsAn erotic attraction to shiny PVC and vinyl clothing, prized for its high-gloss "wet look", smooth slick surface, and tight, body-hugging fit. A common, accessible cousin of latex and leather fetishism.42
- Adult Baby / Diaper Lover42/100Autonepiophilia · Identity & TransformationAutonepiophilia, also called paraphilic infantilism, is the interest in adopting the role, mindset or self-image of an infant or very young child. Combined with a diaper-focused interest it forms the broader ABDL (adult baby / diaper lover) identity. It is regression to a childlike role, not attraction to children.42
- Gas Mask Fetish37/100Objects & MaterialsAn erotic interest in gas masks and respirators, valued for the rubber enclosure of the face, anonymity, and altered breathing. An uncommon object fetish tied to rubber/latex culture and breath play, carrying real physical risk when airflow is restricted.37
- Spandex Fetish36/100Objects & MaterialsAn erotic attraction to spandex and similar stretch fabrics (Lycra, elastane), focused on their tight, second-skin fit and smooth, glossy surface. It is a benign synthetic-material interest rather than a clinically defined paraphilia.36
- Fear Play33/100Sensation & PainA consensual BDSM practice that deliberately evokes controlled fear, startle, or adrenaline within a negotiated scene to heighten arousal. It draws on the body's fight-or-flight response. A niche, psychologically intense form of edge play.33
- Robot Fetish26/100Technosexuality · Objects & MaterialsRobot fetishism, also called technosexuality or ASFR, is an erotic attraction to robots and androids, or to people behaving as artificial beings. It commonly centres on mechanical movement, control, and the blurred line between human and machine.26
- Brontophilia17/100Brontophilia · Settings & SituationsSexual arousal triggered by thunderstorms: thunder, lightning, the pressure drop and the wind and rain that come with them. A rare setting-and-atmosphere interest, benign, with no survey behind it and no place in either diagnostic manual.17
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